Attitude is defined as a state of mind or feeling; it refers to one’s disposition. Whereby disposition means one’s usual mood or temperament. Attitude can also be a habitual inclination or tendency; hence we can simply call it a mindset since it is usually in the mind before it becomes a habit. Therefore, our mindsets are predetermined outlooks about ourselves, other people and life in general. Attitudes can be temporary or permanent, depending on how and why we acquire them. They can also be positive or negative and influence our lives the same way. The Holy bible says that, “As a man thinketh, so is he. The attitudes we develop about ourselves and life in general, as we grow up can either take us to our destiny or derail us from it. The revered Indian first prime minister who was an independence hero and statesman, Mahatma Gandhi, had this to say about our thoughts:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
Gandhi’s words show how powerful our thoughts, and hence attitudes, can be since everything we do must start as a thought or plan in our mind, before we execute it. Seemingly, it is in the mind where many battles are lost or won, it is also the same mind where many success stories are written or erased. People with positive attitudes not only make things look possible, but they also help those around them to develop the same outlook hence influencing the world positively. It is very easy for some people to develop self defeating attitudes which become stumbling blocks on their way towards achieving their full potential. If I say, “I am weak,” I subconsciously ensure that I stay weak. Vironika Tugaleya writes in her book, “The Love Mindset”. She also adds that “If I say, “I cannot,” “I’m not the type to,” “I am not able,” then I set up a self-fulfilling prophecy. As I think of myself, so I shall be.”
Because of a myriad of challenges that people face in life, one’s success will purely depend on how one chooses to look at these challenges and the mindset the person chooses to adopt. It therefore goes without saying that successful people are those who learnt how to develop positive attitudes towards life even when faced with the biggest obstacles in their lives. They are people who learnt earlier that even if life throws a bitter lemon at them, they can make something out of it; a lemonade!
Mahatma Gandhi’s thoughts were echoed by Margaret Thatcher, the first woman and longest serving prime minister of the United Kingdom, when she observed that,
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.
My father always said that… and I think I am fine.”
There is no doubt that for us to be successful in life, what we need most is a positive attitude even when we we feel crushed with trials and tribulations. People with a positive attitude about life always try to look at the brighter side of things. They usually see the glass as half full rather than half empty; they are optimistic as opposed to being pessimistic, while people with a negative attitude are completely the opposite. We only need to do a simple thing: Choose either of the two sides and belong.